Would you like to come and see a movie? … or are you in the Zone?
said my husband. He came home from a long overseas trip this week, and it is fantastic to have him back. During the past month I almost forgot how fun and entertaining and interesting life can be with someone close to tease and tell ridiculous jokes and share far out pocket philosophies with on a daily basis.
However: when he asked about the movie I was deeply focussed on writing, and searched vigourously for a socially valid excuse I could use to hold on to my laptop. That’s when he added the ‘… or are you in the Zone?’ bit. Yes! I’m in the Zone! I can’t let go now … Thanks for understanding!
‘The zone’ is then the newest word added to our household’s everyday vocabulary. The vocabulary contains fixed metaphors we use all the time to quickly point to key everyday states of mind (most are movie quotes). The Zone is an intuitive hit because that’s where we are most of the time, so it makes sense to check.
The Zone has laws, and the foremost is: don’t interrupt. It is not possible to leave the Zone in a rush. The Zone has its own time zone, and is painful and costly to shift the attention outwards when in the Zone. The Zone is a private Heaven that can not be visited by outsiders, but productions from the Zone can be exported to the real world.
The Zone isn’t necessarily incompatible with relationship, although it may be incompatible with some relationships. It is perfectly possible to be near each other and deeply immersed into separate mind bubbles of attention. Even though the interests are miles apart, and even though being in the Zone is in itself incompatible with socialising; respecting each others’ being in the Zone is the sweetest kind of love I know. It is a statement that says: ‘I see you and I know who you are. I see your strong sides and understand your needs.’
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